Spiritual & Energy Healer
Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, 19118
The likely cause of your most intense conflicts is not that you picked the wrong person, or that there is something wrong with your partner. You are uncomfortable because your partner is so different from you. Ironically, you chose those very differences because you need them to fully experience life.
Since difference is the reason you chose this particular person, and that has now become the reason for your difficulties, you can understand the futility of your ongoing attempts to solve each “problem” at the surface of every argument.
Your relationship doesn’t have a problem, what it has is unrealized potential.
This is why couples counseling so often fails: too much emphasis on what you were fighting about but no discussion of the needs behind those arguments. Statistically, only one-third of couples who do one year of counseling report any positive result, and two-thirds of them report that this change is lost within a year.
Teamwork Mediation takes only six weeks yet its effects are lasting, not only because you resolved your conflicts instead of a therapist, but also because you got to the root cause: the differences, and an understanding about how you both can benefit from them.
A deep understanding of needs is key to having a successful relationship. This includes how to identify your needs and your partner’s needs, how to communicate them, and how to negotiate your differences. Not knowing about needs, especially about the difference between your needs and those of your partner, will block your ability to build intimacy.